While having lunch and visiting with our friends at one of the senior centers we regularly attend, old Motown songs played in the background. I found myself singing along with Stevie Wonder’s hit from 1984, “I Just Called to Say I Love You“. It reminded me of the importance of connecting with our loved ones. As Valentine’s Day approaches, this song, with its simple message, serves as a lovely reminder to make contact with those we love, especially those living alone or in nursing homes.
Connections contain the power to lift spirits
In a world where technology has made communication easier than ever, the simple message expressed in this song can inspire us to reach out. The act of calling, writing a letter, sending a card, or visiting in person can have a profound impact on someone’s life. For those who live alone or in nursing homes, the sense of isolation and loneliness can be overwhelming. Making a connection with someone can brighten their day, lift their spirits, and remind them that they are loved and valued.
Dangers of Loneliness
Numerous studies have shown that loneliness can have severe health consequences, particularly for the elderly. One such study published in the Journal of Neurology, Neurosurgery, and Psychiatry found that those who experience loneliness are at an increased risk of developing dementia. The feeling of being disconnected can lead to depression, anxiety, and a decline in cognitive function. By connecting with our loved ones, we can help lower these risks and help contribute to their overall well-being.
What about those who have already developed dementia?
Does isolation affect them? A study done by the National Institutes of Health concluded that “People experiencing dementia are prone to accelerated progression of their disease due to restrictions in social interactions”.
Valentine’s Day: A perfect opportunity
Thankfully, Valentine’s Day offers a wonderful reminder that this is a good time to connect with our loved ones. Visits in person offer the best connection. While their memory may be diminishing, the feelings experienced during your time together are very real and stay with them for a long time afterward. If visiting in person is impossible, sending a heartfelt card, writing a loving letter, or making a simple phone call can still make a world of difference for someone who may feel forgotten or neglected. It is a day to remind them that they are cherished and appreciated.
Remember those who care for their loved ones
While reaching out to our loved ones is essential, it is equally important to remember the caregivers who devote their lives to caring for the elderly, fragile, or those with dementia. Caregivers often experience isolation and loneliness, as their responsibilities can be all-consuming. A word of encouragement, a note of gratitude, or even a short visit can provide the encouragement that they are not forgotten or alone.
An additional musical message
Another song that resonates deeply with the theme of loneliness is “Lonely People” by America. The heartfelt lyrics encourage individuals who feel isolated not to give up hope. It reminds us that there are countless nursing homes, hospitals, churches, and senior organizations filled with lonely people who yearn for connection and companionship. By reaching out to these individuals, we can make a significant impact on both their lives and ours, bringing a sense of joy and fulfillment.
Make time to be kind
So, as Valentine’s Day approaches, is there someone you could call to say, “I love you“? Are you able to carve out a bit of time here and there to stop by for a visit? You may never know what a difference your acts of kindness will make. Any small gestures of kindness can go a long way in making someone feel loved and remembered.
Let’s treat every day as Valentine’s Day
Even the most simple act of reaching out to our loved ones, especially those who are lonely, can have profound benefits for their mental and emotional well-being. Inspired by Stevie Wonder’s “I Just Called to Say I Love You” and America’s “Lonely People,” if it’s possible, let’s take the time to connect with those in our world who would benefit, and determine to make a difference in the lives of others.
Is there someone you could call to say, “I love you“?
Has your world been touched by dementia?
My book, “Finishing Well: Finding the Joy in Dementia“, is a collection of stories and tips about doing life with my Mama. May it encourage and inspire you to find joy on your own, unique journey.