“Who are you?” No, that is not the person with dementia asking. If your loved one moves to a Skilled Nursing Facility (SNF) or Care Home, their past may be virtually a blank slate. Perhaps this question comes from a compassionate CNA or other health care worker, or even one of the other various persons who are now engaging in your loved one’s life.
Tag: singing
Singing is a lovely elixir for the soul
Back in 1952, Gene Kelly took the world by storm in the musical, “Singin’ in the Rain”. When Arthur Freed wrote the lyrics for that iconic song, I suspect that he must have spent some time in the Carolina’s where the rains are abundant in every season of the year – especially in the spring.
The Magic of Music in Memories
The power of music to trigger memories is well documented in studies and by organizations such as Music and Memory . Singing with a loved one is a wonderful way to keep connected. Most folks have a song or two tucked away in their memory. A song learned when they were eight will remain with them when they are 80.
The Messenger
Mama was a messenger. Her life was a message that didn’t need words. This season also gave her family something else. Time. The extra time we were given allowed us the opportunity to show her honor.
“What can she do?”
At the end of the day, your loved one simply wants what we all want – to know we’re loved. Some days will be better than others, but remember: You’re doing the best you can, and so are they.
It’s beginning to look , (smell & sound) a lot like Christmas
Since the Christmas season is chalk full of sensory delights, this is the perfect time to take advantage of anything that could stir up memories in your loved one.
Tips for finding joy on the journey
Anything, no matter how silly it seems, if it helps your loved one feel as if they can still do something to contribute is a worthwhile activity.
Voice lessons
I gave my friend some advice that I have been finding myself saying over and over: If it is at all possible, record your loved one’s voice while you still have the opportunity.
Allen Barker marches to a different drum
“I have lived this long, not due to making good choices, but rather making interesting choices – but then they turned out to be good.” – Allen Barker
The “Piano Man” keeps rolling
John is a quiet soul, who prefers to stay in the background – usually at a piano and let his music do the talking.